I-blogger yomama ophezulu iwabelana ngamathiphu okukhulumisana nentsha ngokuthumelela izithombe ze-sexting
Njengoba umakhalekhukhwini kanye nokusebenzisa idivayisi yeselula kukhula phakathi kwabafundi abakhulu nabaphakeme esikoleni esiphakeme, ukukhishwa kwe-teenage sexting kuye kwaphakamisa ikhanda layo emiphakathini yethu. Kusuka kumakamelo wengxoxo yengane - lapho ukuthumela izithombe nge-posting ngokuvamile kubhekwa njengokuthi 'kwangasese' ngisho nemigomo efana ne - 'Kik sexting' kanye ne-'Spapchat sexting 'ithatha impande eqinile ezweni lethu - kubantwana abathintekayo bezingane abazingela futhi besabisa intsha kanye neshumi nambili ekuthumeleni izithombe ezishukumisayo, intsha ithatha izithombe ze-naked futhi zisakazwa ngefoni kanye ne-intanethi.
Akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi abazali kufanele babhekane nalokho okushiwo kwentsha ekuthumeleni izithombe ezingcolile zomakhalekhukhwini kanye nemibhalo, kodwa othisha nokuphoqelelwa komthetho bajoyine ukuhlukunyezwa njengengculazi yamacala amasha - kanye nemithetho yokuthumelela imilayezo enamandla - manje ithinta abanye ngaphandle amaqembu ahilelekile.
Njengabanye abaningi bezingane, abazali kufanele baqaphele ukusetshenziswa komakhalekhukhwini wabo umfundi futhi bavule imigomo yokukhulumisana ngokuthunyelwa kwe-teenager, kusho u-Lori Cunningham, we-WellConnectedMom.com, ibhulogi igxile kumama nobuchwepheshe.
"Uxoxe ngocansi nengane yakho, udinga ukukhulumisana nge-sext nengane yakho," kusho uCunningham, enkulumweni yocingo. "Ukuphumelela kokuthumelelana imiyalezo ngezingane ezincane kubhekene nokuningi kokuxhumana phakathi kwabazali nezingane."
Ngenkathi ifoni isetshenziselwa ukwakha isimo, intombazane yanamuhla manje ihlanganyela nobuchwepheshe eceleni kwezinsuku zemvelo zasemasimini esikoleni esiphakathi nasesikoleni esiphakeme. Umphumela wokuphela, u-Cunningham uthi, kungenzeka ukuthi uthumele imiyalezo nge-SMS uma ingane yakho iqala ukuphola.
Kodwa, kunokugxila ekuthumeleni imiyalezo yezingane ezithuthumayo, u-Cunningham uthi ukubuka ngobuqotho intsha kanye nokuphola kungahamba phambili ekuvimbeleni imiphumela ekuboniseni izithombe ezicacile ngokobulili nemilayezo yombhalo nabanye.
"Uma uxoxisana nentsha, iningi lizosho ukuthi ukuthumelelana i-sexting kubi," esho. "Kodwa uma bebuhlobo, umehluko wukuthi ukuthembela okuqhubekayo - bazizwa [abanye babo abaphawulekayo] baneminyango yabo. Ngeshwa, uma bephule, yilapho lezi zithombe zidluliselwa khona."
UCunningham ukhuthaza abazali ukuba banothando kodwa beqine ekuchazeni ukuthi akuwona wonke ubudlelwano obusebenzayo futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlukunyezwa kwentsha akupheli kahle. Uma intsha isabelana ngalezi zithombe, cishe kuzobonakala, kusho.
Okokugcina, abazali abaxoshwa kulo mthwalo wemfanelo ngenxa yokuthi awuqondi ubuchwepheshe.
"Lokhu kungukukhulumisana kwesizukulwane samanje," kusho uCunningham. "Ukuqonda ubuchwepheshe banamuhla futhi ukuyisebenzisa nezingane zabo kuyomzali obambisene nentsha yabo (ngoba basebenzisa isiteshi esikhulu sokuxhumana nentsha) kanye nokuvikela izingane zabo ezimweni eziyingozi."
Amathiphu aphezulu angu-7 okukhuluma ngokuthumelelana nokuthumela imiyalezo ngezingane
Njengomzali, ukuvimbela ukuthumela i-sexting kudinga ukuxhumana nokulungiselela. Nazi amathiphu ambalwa avelele avela enkulumweni yami noMnu. Cunningham:
Hlola Ukukhula Ngaphambi Kokunikeza Izingane Umakhalekhukhwini
UCunningham uthi uDkt. Charles Sophy, umqondisi wezokwelapha eMnyangweni wezokuNakekela izingane weLos Angeles, ekucebiseni abazali ukuba bacabangele ukusetshenziswa komakhalekhukhwini ngesikhathi esineminyaka engu-12. Nokho, uyaxwayisa, akuzona zonke izingane ezilungele ngaleso sikhathi.
Cabanga ngokuxhumana nomakhalekhukhwini wezingane nomama
Yakha ukulindela nemikhombandlela yengane yakho bese uyibeka phansi.
Vumela Intsha Yazi Imingcele Yabo
Ngaphezu kokukhetha imingcele efanele yedatha nokuthumela imiyalezo, abazali kufanele bachaze ukuthi ingane yabo ayinayo idivayisi yabo yeselula. Njengengxenye yale ngxoxo, xoxani ngokukhetha kokubeka uhlelo lokuqapha efonini ukuze ukwazi ukulandelela ukuthi bangaphi nokuthi benzani.
Yazi ukuthi bakhuluma bani
Gcina ukukhulumisana kuvulekile futhi ubuyekeze lokhu okulindelwe njalo ngokuhlola idivayisi yabo yeselula yokuthumelelana imiyalezo nge-imeyli neminye imisebenzi yenkinga. Vimbela intsha ekuvumeleni amaphasiwedi efoni yeselula bese uyilungisa ukuthi bayayenza emzamweni wokufihla umsebenzi wabo. Landela ingane yakho ukuthi ingobani abangabangani bayo, kokubili ku-intanethi futhi kuvaliwe.
Xoxani ngemithetho, imiyalezo ye-SMS
Ucwaningo olwenziwe nge-intanethi mayelana nokuthumela imiyalezo ye-SMS ekuphatheni kwakho, nokwahlukana kokuthumela imiyalezo nge-imeyli. Funda izindaba nomntanakho mayelana nokuthi ukuthumelelana nge-imeyli kuthinte kanjani intsha, kusukela ekusesheni ekolishi nasemisebenzini, ekushushisweni nasekuzibulaleni.
Baxwayise Ngokuthumela, Ukuthumela Ulwazi Lomuntu siqu
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi okuphakathi, intsha kufanele ifundiswe ukuthi ingabelani ukwazisa ulwazi olumayelana nabo nge-IM, i-imeyili noma imilayezo yombhalo, kufaka phakathi isikole, inombolo yocingo noma ikheli lasekhaya.
Uma ekungabaza, Vimba imilayezo yezithombe
Amanethiwekhi amaningi omakhalekhukhwini angavimbela abasebenzisi ukuthumela noma ukuthola imibiko yezithombe, uma benganikeli uhlelo ngaphandle kwalesi sevisi. Uma unenkinga ngokuthumela imiyalezo ye-SMS, noma ukhathazekile, ungahle ulungise uhlelo lwakho lweselula.
Udinga usizo oluthe xaxa lokukhuluma ngokuthumelela imiyalezo nge-SMS? I-Cunningham inikeza i-eBook ye-"Teens and Cell Phones Primer" yamahhala kuwebhusayithi yayo.